I trained as a person-centred psychotherapist in 2010 in a full time, fully immersive, two-year training that led to my Master’s degree in Counselling. I had completed two years of training previously and gained my Certificate in counselling. Four years in total and it felt as though I was at the beginning of an important life change. I spent the following five years working in a Counselling Centre and Wayland Prison where I worked on the addiction and recovery programme. This included group therapy, individual therapy and larger groups working with the 12 steps.
After five years of putting the skills I had learnt into practice, I set up my private practice. Around this time, I decided I wanted to specialise in sex and relationships and realised there was a lot that I needed to learn about my own relationship with both. I undertook a year long training which helped me to take a hard look at my limiting beliefs, shame, and emotional blocks around both sex and how I am in relationship to those closest to me. It was a difficult and confronting training but opened the door to a much freer and more fully integrated way of being. I felt ready to specialise after this and I went on to train as a Psychosexual and Relationship Psychotherapist. This was a two year Post Graduate Diploma training which I completed in 2018.
I feel to be an effective Psychotherapist, I need to walk my talk. In order to accompany clients to the difficult places they may need to go, I have to be willing to go to those places in myself. I haven’t stopped learning since I completed my Master’s and intend to continue to challenge myself so that I have an ever expanding resource of knowledge and experience to offer my clients. I undertake therapy as a client to both remember what it is like to be on the other side of the relationship and to deal with what may be coming up in my life, so it doesn’t impact my client work. I undertake regular supervision for both my individual work and my Psychosexual and relationship work which is a pre -requisite for both my governing bodies, BACP and COSRT.
I hope to start work on my Doctorate in Couple Psychotherapy in the next 2-3 years.
To be ourselves causes us to be exiled by many others and yet to comply with what others want causes us to be exiled from ourselves